Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ. What Is The HAPPY Test?
The Happy Test is a way of learning how to Love Yourself. This is not a cliche but a true statement. It shows you very quickly what you are wanting for yourself in a relationship, so you can feel and experience the wonders of love. When you truly know what you are looking for in a relationship and achieve it, you have given yourself a beautiful gift.
You have done the work by adhering to the highest good intentions for yourself and have therefore provided the gift. The Happy Test helps you find what you seek in a relationship by clearly showing you the precise things that will help develop a strong and loving relationship. You will then know by just thinking of them, the wisdom of your choices.
When two people enter into a relationship there is often little or limited understanding of what is driving the relationship and if things are appearing to deteriorate, (which will inevitably occur at some time) there is often confusion, frustration and anger. The Happy Test brings to both parties, awareness of what is actually happening on the 'moving platform' of the relationship, so that adjustments can be made as an Expression of Love and not of fear. Relationships are opportunities to create the life you both seek without holding the other back.
The Happy Test, identifies (at any time in the relationship) these key 'drivers' of the relationship and their associated behaviours to so that through several simple steps you can quickly determine why. It will also show any potential risk to a relationship.
It is straight forward, easy to do (although it will require you to think) yet is extremely powerful. When both parties do The Happy Test things become clear and offers a framework to get things back on track.
Please do not be fooled by the simplicity behind this process.
FAQ. How Will The HAPPY Test Help Me?
The Happy Test relates to You specifically (not your partner or what he or she is doing). It helps you to identify and understand the very things that are happening within you that are making you happy or not.
You may 'Be' happy in one relationship whilst 'Being' unhappy in another. The Happy Test shows you why, so you can address specifically the issues that can make an immediate difference. Is that not worth knowing?
FAQ. How will The HAPPY Test help the Relationship?
Knowing specifically the impact of how each other is being affected and why, provides a focus that can be shared so that what was hidden at the subconscious level, can be brought up as a discussion to help improve the relationship. (see The Relationship Action Plan)
Offering blame is not a solution. The Happy Test offers you the important but conflicting aspects of the relationship that allows greater understanding and opportunity for resolution. When there is resolution and acceptance there can be growth in the relationship.
FAQ. Won’t finding differences cause more conflict?
Quite possibly, yes! However, if you are concerned about being in a conflict, you may wish to reflect upon your perspective of what conflict is.
Many believe conflict to be negative, due primarily to anger and aggression being demonstrated which in turn creates unpleasant and uncomfortable feelings - therefore through fear, it should be avoided. In reality, it is the negative feelings that are wanting to be avoided.
Conflict in fact is an essential way for two or more people to get greater understanding and clarity about something. It is not about aggression, power over or ‘winning’; it is about opposing views that are in conflict i.e. in opposition. Through conflict greater understanding of a person’s truth is made available.
When there is assertiveness (maintaining respect for the other party) or even anger during a conflict, it is an indication of how important something is to someone.
Just make sure you have your facts right and not made up fear based imaginary situation or circumstance.
When conflict is managed there are ways to be in conflict yet maintain respect for each other. Managed conflict cultivates enquiry as to why is something that important.
FAQ. I am too afraid to leave – what should I do?
Living in fear of a partner is a tragic consequence of love 'gone wrong'. Love is freedom: Freedom of expression; Freedom to grow and evolve; Freedom to express your love your way and in a way that causes the other to grow. Love creates growth and expansion.
It's opposite, Fear, restricts and prevents growth - When love turns to possession it is through fear.
Ironically it can be through fear of losing the 'love' that they found, that possession can start to manifest. Where violence exists, psychological or physical - You need help and support. Help that is beyond the intentions of this service.
The Happy Test can confirm what you already know about the relation – either way.
One challenge is overcoming the imagined fear that you create - because it is paralysing you to take action. If action has failed before, it does not mean it will fail again.
You do however need Help!!
Here are some websites to point you in the direction that many have used and therefore may help you.
FAQ. How much will a Test cost?
Currently, taking a single HAPPY Test is only US$19.95. It is NOT A SUBSCRIPTION. We have made this affordable to help people find love and learn to live together in greater harmony.
There is enough negativity going on in the world and I hope to help you and others have that special someone whom you can share all aspects of yourself with and grow in the process.
NB: If you are truly happy across all aspects of your relationship please DO NOT TAKE a test - you don't need to. Your investments in the relationship are working, it's ok. Unless of course you wish to confirm the reasons why your relationships is strong and loving.
However, If you are concerned about and/or are unhappy in a relationship, or a part of the relationship is ok and another aspect causes you to be regularly emotional and unhappy, then you must consider the cost on Your Time, Your Energy, Your Levels of Happiness, Your Feelings and Your Emotional investment (which may not be working).
Basically if things are not quite working for you - you need TheHappyTest.
Especially for Partnership and Marriage Tests, investing US$19.95 is an extremely cost effective choice to get you started on a course of action because the alternatives are expensive.
If you were to put a price on the emotional content alone, the price for TheHappyTest is minuscule in comparison - it’s a ‘No-Brainer’, especially when you consider the costs of avoiding or denying your truth. The social approach to finding answers is far, far more expensive i.e. going out complaining with friends over meals, wines and coffees or 'drowning' or numbing sorrows in other ways.
FAQ. So how do I start?
The process is quite simple; Just register your details, use your credit card and you will be taken to the test you selected. There are 4 test types, Marriage, Partner (in a relationship), Single/Dating and Betweeners (Not a child and not an adult 16 -21 years)
FAQ. What happens after the Happy Test?
Only these two types of relationship tests, provide access to the Relationship Package & the Action Plan, that is designed to thoroughly explore the reasons behind why things are deteriorating. It is intended to help avoid or minimise extensive heartache, costs associated with breakups and emotional upheaval, particularly where there is family involved.
The purpose of unhappy couples or an unhappy partner taking the test, is to bring clarity to the real issues that are undermining and potentially destroying your happiness.
This does require courage though. But facing the truth is like that, you can't hide from it and you can’t run away from it – so if your scared, be brave, feel the fear and do it anyway.